The Rising Of The Curtain

September 2009

Vibes Newspaper

When it comes to acting the very first thing that springs into our mind are movies that we have been watching ever since we can remember but a more alive dimension of acting exists outside the realms of the silver screens- The Theatre. This is a world beyond digital editing and multiple retakes, a world where the story comes to life with efficient live acting achieved after hours of toilsome practices and rehearsals, a world where creativity can flourish influencing the people in their real lives.

The Nepalis have always been huge fans of movies but with the changing times and degrading condition of local movies people are finding charm in the charismatic dramas and thus theatre is gaining a lot of popularity these days. The fading theatre culture has managed to resurface and carve a niche for itself amidst the foreign movies that have a huge fan following in Kathmandu. Gurukul, the only school of theatre in Nepal established by The Aarohan Theatre Group has helped the people to rediscover the importance of plays. Gurukul has been performing proscenium theatre by Nepali playwrights and adapting foreign plays to the Nepali context since 2002.

"We did not receive many audiences during our early years but at present time people have been flocking in to see the plays" says Basanta Bhatta, the administration chief of Gurukul. Initially Gurukul started with one hall but because of growing number of audience a second hall with a seating capacity of 350 people was built. Mr Bhatta says that plays enacted by the Nepali actors have been appreciated internationally and Gurukul has managed to earn quite a reputation at an international level.

Gurukul has been contributing selflessly in preserving the theatre culture. It has completely dedicated itself for preserving this art form but still the plays enacted are mostly from foreign writers. To this Mr. Bhatta says, "it is not so. There might be a difference of a few number but we give equal importance to both. We are trying to stage plays by modern era writers and the Nepali scripts aren't suitable so we have to make do with foreign playwrights."

In today's world where there is a machinery solution for every possible need, the rise of theatre should be regarded as an achievement. Dramas are an excellent way of preserving culture and literary assets. By encouraging drama we are not only rescuing an art form from vanishing but we are actually helping our culture grow. Why not do something for our culture for once? Why not take a break from stereotypical culture of worshiping foreign movies and give our very own theatre a try?

No Boyfriend? Why Not?

October 2010
Healthy Life

We have family and we have friends but still there is this void inside us and, to fill this space and feel complete, we need the significant other. That’s where a boyfriend comes in.

Every girl wants to meet the perfect guy, fall in love, have the ideal house and kids someday. The “happily ever after” dream probably sowed its seed in our hearts from the very day that we picked up our first fairy tale. Between Cinderellas, Prince Charmings and the magical Godmothers, we began weaving our own dream.

I went to an all girl convent school and like for my fellow mates, boys were of a completely different species for me. Boys were rude, stubborn and haughty; a nonsensical lesson learnt from uncountable disagreements during the numbered outing

and camping sessions in the companionship of boys from the neighbouring school. Middle school was spent hating the males, fighting with them and disagreeing on every possibility. It wasn’t one sided either. The only time when I saw a guy under romantic lights was in the movies or in the tall tales of romance that seniors shared in the school buses.

Those were the uncomplicated days when boys annoyed us and always picked on us. Soon after came the age of crushes. Giggles and rosy blushes heavily filled the air and all we could talk about was boys; how cute they were and how oblivious they were of our feelings. Latest “hook-ups” and “breakups” were the top notch gossip (it still is) but back then nothing was really serious. Hormones triggered puppy love and infatuations ruled the relationships.

When I compare those days with the present, I see a drastic difference. Back in my times, boyfriends and relationships weren’t actually encouraged. Dating was a risky business and even a male friend (without romantic linkage) was questioned. Especially if the girl was seeing somebody, she was frowned upon. Now, as I walk down the street, a lot of couple pass me by and they aren’t even that old. Everyone seems to have a companion and thanks to the media and western influence Nepalis are becoming more comfortable with the idea.

The rate of love marriages has gone up. Gone are the days when a girl’s life partner was decided by her parents. The 21st century women are more upfront and are courageous enough to ask a guy out. There are many successful relationships where girls have broken the conventional rule and made the first move. Countless controversial news appears on newspaper and television every Valentine’s Day and on other days too. Everyone seems to have a boyfriend and those who don’t, seem to need one. When there are countless numbers of feminist movements all across the globe why is it so important to have a boyfriend?

We have family and we have friends but still there is this void inside us and, to fill this space and feel complete, we need the significant other. He will always be there to support you when the whole world has turned its back on you and to fulfil you emotionally and physically. Everyone needs that special someone who is willing to put up with all your quirks and love you in spite of them. Very often, people fall in love and fall out of love but this isn’t something to be depressed about. Rather, one should take the opportunity to grow and learn. You’re just one step ahead to finding your perfect match.

But, that is just my opinion. What do other people have to say? “I wouldn’t go so far as to say that having a boyfriend is essential but it is always nice to know that you have someone you can watch a movie with or hang out with when your friends are busy”, says Nevidita Lamsal, a 24-year-old software engineer who is currently dating. Yeshida Lama who has been committed to a guy for the last four years says, “A good relationship brings emotional fulfilment and security.” Sudima Malla who is currently in a live-in relationship states, “My relationship might not be the best one but at the end of the day I love to be in the arms of my guy.” Sita Ghale however begs to differ! She believes in single life because it is more adventurous and has less strings attached when it comes to flirting.

These opinions aside, some people are ambivalent about relationships and there are more important things in life than putting so much effort in making relationships work. While some of us may savour being a single, free spirit at 40, and others might need a companion at every step of their life, it is absolutely an individual choice to be single or not. For those who are not sure whether they are ready to face the dating scene yet these are the things you might want to consider.

• It feels good to have a boyfriend. 
• Everyone loves the feeling of being loved. 
• Getting through a horrible time is easier when you have someone to share your misery with. 
• You need someone to share the joys too. 
• A girl needs bear hugs and reassuring compliments every now and then. 
• Being in a loving relationship makes it easier to cope with the strains of working life. People who are in long-term relationships are more laid-back and less stressed. 
• You probably spend less time at the pub. Being respectful to your significant other, you’re more likely to cut back on the booze and smoke less. 
• We like having something to do on weekends and in the evenings. 
• Gifts and treats can never be enough. 
• A male companion always wards off the creeps. 
• At the risk of sounding selfish, they are always around when you need a ride especially when you broke your heel! 

Of Inches and Cups.

January 2011

Living Magazine 

• Does your bust bulge out at the top, sides or bottom of your bra?
• Does your bust fall out or become visible beneath the bra?
• Do you have red marks and welts around your body after taking off your bra?
• Does the back band ride up above your shoulder blades?
• Do your bra cups look wrinkly?
• Does your bra centerpiece sit away from your body

If your answer is positive to any of the questions then it is high time you get yourself measured up for a correct bra size.

Most of us start wearing a bra from middle school but astoundingly enough, between all the numbers and formulas we are never taught how to wear and properly manage our undergarments. We wear a bra because of habit, because it is a feminine tradition and most of the times because we are dictated to do so according to the society’s code of conduct. What we do not consider is the fact that wearing the right bra is actually good health wise and psychology wise. For one thing it endows confidence and for another it makes the chest look its best irrespective of the size.

In spite of wearing a bra like a second skin, many women often forget the importance of wearing a right sized bra. And in Nepal, the problem is even more so. Women are entitled to wearing the size they have guessed and they continue claiming the wrong size irrespective of the pain and discomfort. But treating your bosom appropriately and wearing the right bra can as a point of fact reverse aging. It can actually make you look 10, even 20 pounds lighter.

Almost 85% of the women wear incorrect size bra and there are a lot of reasons for the question why. The most common being the plain “because they do not know what their right size is”. Bra is one of the essentials but getting measured for it is a self set taboo among many women. They are uncomfortable and thus never get their bust measured and go on wearing the “assumed” precise size. Sometimes even the women who get themselves measured don’t wear the correct size due to the measurer’s blunder. The person either doesn’t know the correct way of measuring or closes the deal by handing the undergarment that will make do. But make dos are just not acceptable.

The other most common reason is to reduce or increase the chest size. Many females think that their breasts are too large and opt for smaller sized bra to make their bust appear smaller and vice versa. For the mere bliss of acquiring a smaller torso they often pay no heed to the ills that they are bestowing on their health. And there are the women who are half correct about their size. They might be accurate about the band size but they are ignorant of their cup size and cup sizes matter a lot for a good fit.

Wearing a right sized bra is very important. Shapelessness of breasts, scarring, and bad posture are some of the minor evils unleashed by the ill fitting bras. Every women needs to know that her breasts do not retain same size throughout the years and the undergarments needs to be adjusted with time. Selection of wrong bra might lead to the stretching of fragile ligaments. It also brings with it back problems, and strain the shoulder and spinal cord that might be troublesome in the long run. The problem could even be as severe as resulting in a breast cancer but this is a controversial topic for there have been contradicting confirmation as well as rejection of the theory.

Since the late 19th century, after replacing the corsets, bra has been the conventional method for supporting a woman's breasts. Today an average woman owns minimum 6 pairs of bra including a strapless bra and one that isn’t white. Brassieres have taken up the station of a fashion statement and a sexual icon over the years. Women have a wider access to different styles of bras. There are the normal bras and full support bras with larger cups and demi bras with half cups. Adhesive bras that adhere to the breasts and bandeau bras, a single strip of clothes worn across the chest are also popular.

The existence of special bras have given females some control over the appearance of their bust with wonder bras that enhances the breasts or minimize bras that makes the chest look smaller. The fashion industry have shaped a plethora of novelty bras with a wide assortment of fabrics, some as bizarre as leather. Sports bra, tee shirt bra, attached bra, wired bra and scores of other designs have seen the light of day and bountiful names of brands expertise in these garments.

All bras are different and while buying bras this need to be kept in mind. Women need to understand that a single size is not relevant across all kinds of brands and just the tightening of the straps can not make a bra fit. We might have had your bra problems that we were too embarrassed to share. The whole reason for the troubles could have been a simple ill fit. The only way to know is to get measured by an expert (for both band and cup size) because health is a hefty price to pay for short termed embarrassment. If you are also a victim of wrong sized bra then I suggest you GO PROPER SHOPPING!  

Wind Chimes

September 2010

ECS Nepal Magazine

The soothing tinkles of wind chimes are ever comforting and calming. When the wind grazes the wind catcher, the flow of musical chimes fills the air with tranquility. And if the elegant frame is pleasing to the eye, the resonating sound it generates is a treat to the ears.

Today, wind chimes occupy a fair share of space in interior decorations. We even find bell-like wind chimes in temples and Buddhist monasteries. Hung by the ledge of the door, window or just any place that receives plenty of wind, wind chimes evoke a haunting melody, adding to the serene ambiance.

Wind chimes have different appearances – intricate bell like instruments, a cluster of aluminum tubes around a clapper, or just a bunch of similar looking objects suspended from a ring-like structure with a wind catcher. These graceful musical devices are made of different materials ranging from various metals, including clay and wood. Bamboo wind chimes and wind bells are also quite popular. The present day decorative wind chimes are a result of alteration and transformation over time in various cultures. The genuine original wind chimes date back to prehistoric times, and archaeological evidences point to the fact that East and South Asia are their actual places of origin.

Wind chimes were considered religious objects believed to attract kind spirits and drive away evil ones. The Buddhists especially revere wind bells and hung them by the hundreds from the eaves of shrines, pagodas, temples as well as in caves. Wind chimes were also used for immediate weather forecasting, observing conditions such as wind speed and direction. In China and Japan, they started being used as decorative pieces in private homes. Their popularity spread widely among Western countries in the 19th and 20th centuries and, today, wind chimes are used extensively around the world with the belief that they bring good luck.

Going beyond their appearance and decorative attributes, wind chimes have a much deeper significance: they can have a healing effect on both the mind and body. The resonance and vibration of their sounds are considered to release stress, release emotional blockages in the body and calm the mind, thereby enhancing conscious awareness and connection with the spirit. The sounds of wind chimes are thought to be positive that usher relaxation and reduce anger and tension. Wind chimes help instilling in us a sense of peace and wellbeing, too. It is believed that they can help bring balance and harmony to your garden and home, and they are also often used in Feng Shui.

Nepal has also been making its mark in the international wind chime market. Clay wind chimes, wood wind chimes, bamboo wind chimes and Tibetan standing wind chimes are a few of the locally manufactured varieties. These wind instruments, as already mentioned, are very popular in Western countries where most of them are exported to, and among the foreigners who buy them as souvenirs. Be it on an international or national level, for decorative purposes, religiosity or as stimulants for good health and wellbeing, wind chimes will always be popular the world over for their aesthetic simplicity and the enduring sweet notes they leave lingering in the air.

PERFUMES:THE RIGHT WAY!!!

Living

I am very sensitive to smell. A single whiff of a strong smell and my system launches spasms of headaches. This is probably something you have no particular curiosity of knowing and you don’t really care. But let me finish….despite of having a long term love-hate relationship with scents, I just can’t stop being madly in love with perfumes- all kind of perfumes. And my devotion has taught me quite a bit about the fragrances that might interest you.

Perfumes have always been an elegance and panache enhancer. Some women own as many bottles of scent as other women have handbags or shoes. The average woman, however, is likely to have no less than 3 fragrances. An everyday perfume, one for a special occasion or evening wear, and a signature scent that is her absolute favorite. When perfumistas seem to be on rise, a basic know how about perfumes never hurt.

My obsession of perfume has gotten deeper with the time but in the process I’ve had my share of fragrance faux-pas. During my teen years my ultimate favorite was floral ones, but of course, with my over the top teen ways, I used to wear way too much and ended up smelling like a crazy old lady. Then there were the times when I chose the wrong perfumes which were just too strong or not strong enough and sometimes extremely inappropriate for the occasion. I have learnt from my smelly mistakes and my sole interest lies in helping you avoid being the “perfuminator”.

First things first! Always remember to select a lighter perfume for the daytime and stronger perfumes for the evenings. Wrong choices will lead to scrunched up noses all around you. Dousing yourself with the fragrance is also not very wise. Most people won't tell you that your perfume bothers them, but more people are affected by scent sensitivities than you think. Here is the correct way of applying perfumes.

- Apply perfume on your skin preferably after a bath/shower since your skin is nice and clean and can absorb your favorite fragrance more thoroughly.
-Apply it to your pulse points- the wrists, crook of the elbow, back of the knees, cleavage and neck. Be careful to dab or spray lightly, not crush the smell (for example by rubbing your wrists together).
-If your perfume comes in spray, squirt a small amount of perfume into the air in front of you and walk through it so your whole body is immersed in a light spray of scent.
- Allow the scent to dry. Many people put on perfume and immediately dress, which rubs some of it off and prevents the fragrance from really being absorbed. It takes about an hour for the perfume to develop with your natural scent.

There are different types of scents; Rich and spicy, boldly floral, sweet and fruity, fresh and elegant, sensuous or sexy and musky. The choice may depend on many things, like the purpose. Consider the situation and the impression that you want to leave before spraying on the perfume. It is advisable to skip perfume for small events in a closed room for it may affect others negatively.

If you take public transportation consider applying your perfume after you arrive at work. Leave the perfume off if you have a doctor or dentist's appointment, surgery or X-rays. Skip the perfume at a job interview. You don’t want your alluring scent masking your skills. You will want to pick stronger perfumes for occasions like wedding and evening parties while a mild one will do for the day time events. Avoid spraying perfumes with clothes or jewelry on. Some fragrances do tend to stain cloth, metals and pearls, ruining your favorite apparel. Also, you are perfuming yourself, not your clothes.

Expand your perfume wardrobe because overuse of a same scent will lose its fragrance. There are thousands of types to choose from. Explore, experiment and SPRAY AWAY!!

Growing up not growing old

Living

I do not want to grow old!!If I had my way I would stay forever young- one wish that is never going to come true, indifferent of the innumerable shooting stars and countless visits to the wishing wells.
No, it isn’t the superficial blanket that scares me because I know better than to judge a person by number of wrinkles or the stooping frail body. It isn’t the unavoidable mountain of pills and tiredness either. The hitch is the blank picture. I just cannot paint an 85 year old wrinkled self of me snoozing in the front porch under the warm sun.

When I can't ride my scooter or swim or dance anymore, when I'm too senile to remember things, when I can't visit beautiful places or hear my favorite music or eat my favorite food I don’t think life will be worth living. But that is a secret. Honestly no one wants to grow old, if they did the magazines and television wouldn’t be so densely populated with advertisements claiming to hide the old age symptoms.

A lot of my acquaintances suffer from Gerontophobia. Okay, I am just being dramatic but yes there are a lot who do not want to grow old. In fact some are even as drastic as to say they’d kill themselves before a certain age. Growing old isn’t just the addition of digits on your age. It brings with it the loss of looks, the loss of independence, inactivity after retirement, impaired mobility, the onset of diseases and loneliness. The inevitable is enough to scare anyone out of their minds.

I was one of the frightened until I got talking about the age issue with my senior relatives during a family gathering and they had a lot to share. My retired uncle zestfully talked about his London trip to visit his younger daughter and my grand aunt rambled about her three pet dogs. And as I listened to them planning about their next pilgrimage visit I had an epiphany. Being old did not put a stop to all the activities and it did not mean I could not dance or listen to my music and it definitely did not mean that life functioned in a slow motion. Slowly but surely I found my notions being transformed. By the time the conversation ended my perspective on old age had completely changed.

When you are older and have left the amateur years far behind you, you get the sense of individuality. You don’t have the worries or shyness you had about yourself when you were younger. You grow up, you learn. You learn to shed the awkwardness and battle the problems of life headlong and effectively. Retirement can seem like an avalanche of sorrows but actually all the free time allows you to do all that you have been putting off because of work commitments or busy life schedule. You could even take up some long forgotten hobbies. The not so attractive facts of senility remained but now however it was cloaked under optimistism.

There is a large gloomy side of old age but there are little occasional spots of sunshine. Like the wisdom portion and the fact that you have no more lessons to learn. And there is the added bonus of freedom to be truly you. Growing old is inevitable and I have braced myself to face it. Now my mantra is - “Growing old is compulsory but growing up is optional”- and as the number goes on adding I will hold on to the

optional bit tighter. And here is a confession, a tiny part of me actually wants to grow old or better yet grow up. 

The Aroma of Success

Healthy Life

Ever dreamt of swimming under the stars in a pool of clean cool water, surrounded on all sides by rich green foliage? Well, dream no longer. Here’s where you can make it a reality. Tonight!

Summer brings with it sun, heat, and body showcasing dresses. What else can be the best way to beat the heat and tone the body than swimming? Aroma Sports Center is just the perfect fit. Tucked away behind the houses in the residential area of Sanepa, the center has been operating for a decade to ensure the health of people by providing both fitness and recreational facilities.

A small vine covered alleyway marking the entrance opens up to the vast expanse (16 ropanis) that houses the fitness center, a tennis court, skating rink, swimming pools, cafeteria and a house, complete with parking space. The narrow path preceding the actual property often earns words of pleasant surprises. Proprietor Aprajita Malla prefers to address it as, “a paradise in the urban jungle”. No other phrase can better describe the secluded but healthy ambience of the greenery filled area.

The house on the premises earlier used for gym has now been remodeled as a care center for children. Busy working parents can register their children at the After School Recreational and Education Center (ASREC) where the children are provided care, recreational activity and tutorials to help them with their academics. The sports center boasts of three swimming pools and a café. At Aroma, you can enjoy a good exercise session and a rewarding bite at the café afterwards. During the summer season Aroma is host to many swimmers who visit it to ward off the heat but during the dry winters, the members opt for tennis or stop by for the tasty food.

The recreational, fitness and safety factors make the sports center arguably the best getaway from the hectic daily life of a Kathmanduite. “Good health for me is feeling good about myself that corresponds to gaining confidence in everything I do” states Malla who herself is a regular exerciser. Here are some more wise words from her that are worth listening to:

On starting a workout
As soon as you start exercising, you start experiencing changes in your body’s homeostasis – a process that maintains bodily equilibrium.  If there is a drastic change, the body will regain its original condition.  Exercise should be done on a regular basis with an exception of a day that can be set aside for resting. Regularity in workout helps the body to function well.

Importance of exercise
Exercise keeps the mind and body healthy. It is essential to regulate the two facets for optimum wellbeing. If the brain is stuck so is the body and that’s what happens in the absence of exercise.  To have perfect health you should study your body and listen to it because the body can tell you when you really need to start exercising or tone down. I believe swimming is the best exercise one can have so I suggest swimming to everybody. We provide a trainer who is a national level swimmer.

Exercise and nutrition

Eating right is a must. With all the hype about zero size figures, everyone is aspiring to have one. Girls specially are turning anorexic but being attractive isn’t about having a skinny figure. When you feel good you look good and a balance between exercise and diet should be maintained to achieve it. Don’t shovel down everything you see in sight. Have several light meals at smaller intervals rather than having huge meals at long intervals. Four light meals are always healthier than two huge ones. Fruits and vegetables should occupy the maximum space in you diet.

The right age

Age is no issue when it comes to exercising. There is no right age to start exercising for everybody needs exercise in some form.  A young kid needs to stretch his body, play some games and be active. An adult needs to exercise to keep his body and mind active and strong. Elderly people need it to keep their system functioning and also as an option to utilize their time. Exercise regulates blood flow which is a major aspect of a healthy body.

Personal routine
Mornings are always the best time for workouts. Working out for 45 minutes to 1 hour is enough exercising unless you want to have an actor’s body.
I used to play tennis and swim regularly but after the birth of my baby, my workouts are limited to breathing exercises in the morning and swimming in the evening. I don’t leave my house without my morning meditation which last for half an hour and I swim during the evenings which also happens to be my favorite calorie burner.  Exercise keeps me going so I workout on a regular basis.
Before joining
Before joining a fitness club or starting a workout routine some things should always be considered for optimum results.

•     First of all, you should know how much exercise you’ve been getting. If you are a regular exerciser than you can start with difficult workouts but if you are a nouveau then you should start with minor routines.
•     If you are new to working out then you should never take up exercises that over burdens you. You should start with less exercise and continue increasing it as your body gets used to it. Over exercising does more harm than good.
•     Choose a workout routine that suits you. If you can enjoy your workout it will help you get healthier faster.

Inspiration
The greatest inspiration can come from oneself. First of all, the mind should be set. The decision to exercise is the first step and of course you need fresh oxygen in your system while working out to keep you going. When you exercise in a healthy manner you feel good and this feel good factor encourages you to continue exercising.

Relaxing Getaway

Aroma Sports Center is a place where people can be with their families. The environment is perfect for a relaxing getaway. Kathmandu used to be a place filled with trees and jungles but you can hardly see it now. At Aroma you can get in touch with nature and get healthy side by side. With its trendy café and ample parking space it is an excellent choice for hosting events. The opening hours stretch from early 6 am to late 8 pm and swimming under the stars could be one experience you don’t want to miss. It is a place that one should visit at least once just for the sake of it.